Anyhow, I spent a considerable amount of time writing about my experiences with breastfeeding. To summarize, I spent the majority of my pregnancy reading up on the benefits of breastfeeding and was 100% committed to exclusively breastfeeding Desmond for at least 6 months, if not longer. I would skip the "problems" section of pregnancy and breastfeeding books because I was POSITIVE that I wouldn't have any problems whatsoever. Ha. Ha. Ha. Taught myself a big, fat lesson on the benefits of being completely prepared to face serious consequences. From about day 4 or 5, I had pain while breastfeeding. Looking back now, I know it was because Desmond had a craptastic latch. It made my nipples crack and I had to wear a nipple shield. On top of that, I had issues with oversupply and block fed him for way longer than I should have. Combined with the nipple shield, this managed to decrease my milk supply so much so that Desmond was eating every 1.5-2 hours and getting frustrated enough that he would pull off before I had my second letdown. Which led to a very underweight Desmond.
Beautiful picture taken by Jack Allred. Des was only 6 weeks here, but you could see how tiny he was (and still is).
So far, he has gained a considerable amount of weight. He's still below average, but definitely above the 1st percentile. Now that I'm back at school, I need to be vigilant about pumping enough so that my milk supply doesn't drop again. I've had a few people ask me how I felt about breastfeeding after going through so many rough patches. In the beginning, I hated breastfeeding. I dreaded it. I remember my mother or Billy bringing Desmond in as I was recovering from the delivery at home and just breaking out into tears. I hesitate to post this picture up because I truly believe that breastfeeding is one of the best things that you could do for your infants and a fantastic way (abeit not the only way) to become closer to your baby. However, I also want women to know that breastfeeding is an ART that needs to be learned; it hardly comes naturally to many women. Educate yourself before and get support during breastfeeding. You don't have to go through any of the pain that I went through. I hope that this picture can show women that although it's hard at first, you will get through it and it will be a beautiful thing in the end. (P.S. Although the entire breast isn't shown, I am in my very matronly nursing bra. Shows about as much as a skimpy bikini would. Just to warn you...)
Desmond was 5 days old in this picture.
During one of my worst days, a woman that I had worked for for a project told me that she had felt the same way, but that by 4 or 5 months, she looked forward to nursing her son. Nursing him was a treasured time that she could spend alone with him. And you know what? Same exact thing happened to me. About a month and a half ago, I started looking forward to our sessions together. My favorite times are later in the evenings, after Des has fallen asleep, when he wakes up. I come into the bedroom and see him propped up on his arms looking around for me. I climb into bed and as soon as I pick him up, he's looking at me, making an urgent "huh huh huh" noise (it's his way of getting excited for me to pick him up and feed him). As soon as he starts nursing, he looks up at me and grabs my finger, caressing it the whole time he nurses. And then it's just me and him in the whole wide world and nothing has ever come close to filling my heart like that.
"LUNCH!" is what he's thinking. Look at the gleam in his eye.
But then I go to sleep. And it only lasts 2 hours, 2.5 if I'm lucky. And he's up again.
They say that once you're a parent, you'll never ever get a decent night's sleep again. So true: if it's not waking up several times a night, it's sitting up worried about your teenager, or worried about the quality of life for your children as adults. It's no wonder that so many parents get addicted to sleeping pills. More about the realities of sleeping as a parent in another post...
I think it's awesome that you posted that picture of you feeding Desmond. It's just such a true documentation. You have been so knowledgeable about breastfeeding. I have always turned to your blog for info regarding the matter.
ReplyDelete